How ‘bout being you?

“If you are living in the now, there’s no need for comparisons.” – Mary Burmeister

I really hate to admit this, but I can be someone who judges. When I’m not present, I do a lot of comparing myself to others. What they have. What I have. What they’re doing. What I’m doing. I can tell I’m out of balance when my thinking starts heading this way. Comparison can create division within myself. Suddenly I’m out of alignment with who I really am and I’m not good company to anyone, especially to myself.

When I feel best, I’m simply being. I’m living my life and doing what feels good. Sometimes it’s working, exercising, or spending time with friends or alone in my garden. I know that I actually do best when my time looking randomly on the internet or on my phone is limited. These tools can be helpful, but they can also start that judgement spiral. Judging and comparing leads to more judging and more comparing, which leads to feeling less happy about ourselves and our lives. Is this you too? 

Noticing and catching myself is a wonderful help. With Jin Shin Jyutsu I can bring myself back to balance by lightly holding my pinkie fingers for a few minutes to calm the judgement. Or I can cross my arms and hold myself like a big hug while I breathe deeply to bring harmony back into my life.  Noticing and Jin Shin Jyutsu gives me the opportunity for choice. Do we really want to spend time comparing ourselves to others? Does it have value? For me the answers are NO and NO.

You were put on this planet to be you, and that can’t be imitated. So if you find yourself starting to do that comparison thing, take a moment. Give yourself a big hug, breathe and know that we need you to be who you are, not someone else. Don’t deny us the pleasure of your company exactly how you are.