Difficult decisions
Because our pets live with us and not in the wild, end of life decisions for pets often fall to their owners, especially when their illnesses create pain and suffering. The choice is always difficult and comes with many questions about appropriate timing. There is often a sense of guilt in ending the life of their constant companion. I help my clients navigate this time of life by offering Jin Shin Jyutsu to help with their pet’s discomforts and to share Jin Shin Jyutsu holds they can do to help them and their pet feel connected during their last days and hours.
I had my own experience when I faced the decision to put down my yellow lab, Mattie. She had been experiencing extensive pain and it was beyond medical treatment. Mattie had received Jin Shin Jyutsu from me for many years, which gave her a wonderful quality of life, but it was clear that she was finally ready to go. Even I, knowing this, struggled with the decision about the right timing. I leaned heavily on the thought that she would be free from pain and we would one day be reunited.
Our wonderful vet agreed to come to my home. All day that day I spent time with Mattie, sharing Jin Shin Jyutsu to help her relax and to connect deeply with her one more time. I used specific Jin Shin Jyutsu holds that create deep calm and relaxation. Our cat, Bubba never left Mattie’s side, including once the vet arrived. While the vet applied the medicine, Bubba and I stayed right there with Mattie. I told her I loved her and we would always be together. Mattie looked at me, sighed a last breath and was gone. Peaceful, beautiful, but I was still very sad.
Pet owners always question their motives and the timing of euthanasia. It is a big responsibility not to be taken lightly. I was no different. Was my goal to alleviate her suffering, or was it so I didn’t have to watch her suffer? After the vet left with Mattie’s body, I went upstairs to shower and wash away my tears. As the water flowed over me I questioned if Mattie would truly be “OK” and if my decision was sound. Suddenly, a vision came as clear as day. It was Mattie! She was running through a green field not unlike the one behind our home where I’d run her when she was young, strong, and energetic. She was happy and playing just as we had together. Just that quickly the vision was gone, but I knew in my heart that it was a gift from her. Mattie would be fine. She was free from the body that was giving her pain. Knowing this in my heart, I was able to remember the beauty of our friendship together. I hope that one day when my life comes to an end, Mattie will be in that big green field waiting for me.
Thank you Jin Shin Jyutsu for giving me a way to be present, loving, and connected during those final months and on the day of Mattie’s departure. What a gift.